Expectatins for Our Children: Childrens Goals Versus Parent’s Goals
When our children are born, we have high expectations for them. Parents have dreams, hopes and wishes for their future. As parents, we want what is best for our children, even at times it may not be what they want.
How do we as parents not push our hopes and dreams onto our children without suffocating them? Simple, do not push what you wanted onto them but rather help them achieve the goals they want for themselves.
Our children are our future and as such, we need to respect the goals they set will be met. As children, they grow and develop minds of their own and in doing so they want to decide their own future.
Children want to live their dreams not their parent’s dreams.
The big question is how do we accept what our children want even when we think it may be the wrong direction?
An example: John wants to go to college to learn more about music because he has a passion for it. His dream is to one day have his own band. John’s parents want him to attend college to get his degree in medicine.
Solution: John’s parents sit down and talk with John about his passion for music. Then John can allow his parents to speak as to why he should attend medical school. Once they have heard both sides. John can explain why he would prefer music to medicine.
Once John’s parents have listened, they can now understand and give the love and support their son needs to chase his dreams of being a musician.
Parents need to learn to listen and understand that children need and want their parent’s approval, but they also want your support in what they choose to do with their life. After all, it is ultimately their choice.
Trust in your child; even if he or she fails let them know as parents you will be there to catch them if they fall.
Another way to look at things is through your child’s eyes. Think back to when you were young and starting out on your own. Did you want to follow the path your parents had laid out for you? If you can say no to this question, then why should you expect your child to say yes?
Communication and understanding between parent and child will go along way in helping your son or daughter achieve their own goals in life.
Best Fall Movies for Children
It seems that the box office lineup this fall has one theme: to recycle old movies. This is a good thing though and it is better than you think. I say that because these movies are not just reproduced, they are beefed up.
For example, take the re-release of both Toy Story and Toy Story 2. This time around they are going to be shown as a double feature. And the best part is, it is re-rendered into a 3-D film, using only the best state-of-the-art technology. Imagine seeing one of the classics come to life on the screen, and out of the screen. Toy Story 3-D is a limited engagement that begins on October 2, 2020. Also to be made as a 3-D movie, Toy Story 3 will be released at the big screen on June 18, 2010. Can’t wait that long? Catch a sneak peak of the upcoming movie during the trailers at the Toy Story double feature. It will be the perfect time to introduce, or re-introduce your children to Woody, Buzz Lightyear, and the gang. This heart-felt kid’s movie shows the meaning of friendship and how far a group of misfit toys will go to find and bring home their friend. Toy Story and Toy Story 2 feature the voice talents of Tom Hanks and Tim Allen.
Another remake isn’t that of a movie already made, but it is based on a famous book. Where the Wild Things Are was written in 1963, and is all about creativity and imagination of a child. The adventures are endless when time and travel aren’t an issue. This movie will captivate audiences of young and old alike and will bring the book to life right in front of the viewer’s eyes. This movie will encouragement those who haven’t read the book, to share it with their children. For those who have read the book, this will provide a chance to compare how correct the movie was in comparision to the book. Big names in this movie include James Gandolfini, Forest Whitaker, and Mark Ruffalo. Where the Wild Things Are has a scheduled opening date of October 16, 2020.
This fall promises to feature some new movies worth watching, and to experience some familiar movies in a new three dimensional fashion. These movies should provide you and your family with a pleasant entertainment experience and the notion that all things old can be made new again.
Get Fit This Fall with Outdoor Activities
Once the temperatures start to drop, nature extends an invitation for you to get out and get active. This year, try making some changes to your routine that are both healthy and fun.
Walk Through a Corn Maze
To quote a line from J.R.R. Tolkein, “Not all who wander are lost.” Navigating your way through a corn maze gives you a chance to exercise your body, and your brain benefits from the workout, too. Find mazes at farms or harvest festivals around the country once fall arrives. It’s a wonderful weekend activity, and worth taking the drive to experience. Reward yourself with some fresh apple cider after you’ve made it through.
Help Neighbors by Raking Their Leaves
It’s time to pick up those fall leaves and get your garden ready for cooler weather, which is always a great physical activity. This year, make time to help out a neighbor who might not be physically able to do this herself, or ask at your church or local senior citizens center if there are individuals in need of this service. You’ll be helping out your community, beautifying your neighborhood and getting a good workout at the same time.
No one likes to wash their windows, but everyone has to do it sometime (my own are due for a good scrub, in fact). Why not make it now while the windows are open and you can smell the wonderful crisp fall air? You’ll appreciate the effort your arms have made once you look through your clean windows to catch the incredible view of the changing leaves. Enlist the help of a friend and do her windows next week.
Walk This Way to Better Birdwatching
Grab your camera, a notebook or sketch pad and start a new tradition: take note of the incredible variety of birds in your neck of the woods. While everyone’s busy getting ready for winter, our winged friends are doing the same, and there’s no better way for you to catch them at work than by taking a walk off the beaten path and keeping a sharp eye out. It might even inspire a new hobby!
Ride Your Bike
When was the last time you rode a bicycle? If you haven’t done it in a while, be assured that the adage holds true: you never forget how to ride a bike. Once you’re back in the saddle again, you’ll remember why you had so much fun doing it as a kid. My own red bike even has a wicker basket, perfect for carrying a bottle of water or collecting pretty little leaves and flowers along the way. It’s a great physical activity that also allows you to get to know your neighbors better and take in all the wonderful changes fall brings to your area.
Enjoy those changes, and let the season encourage healthy habits for you.
Think Safety when Spending Time Outdoors
Summer and fall are perfect times to enjoy the great outdoors. Whether you enjoy camping, hiking, boating, or hunting, adequate preparations and a little common sense are key to ensuring that your outdoor experience is both safe and enjoyable. Keep the following in mind when planning any outdoor adventure.
• Travel with a companion and leave a copy of your itinerary with a responsible person.
• Learn basic first aid and carry a first aid kit.
• Wear appropriate clothing for weather conditions and the season. Always bring something warm, extra socks and rain gear.
• Keep an eye on current and predicted weather conditions.
• Check your equipment prior to your trip. Do not wait until you are at the trailhead or dock.
• Pack your own water or purify water from streams and lakes through chemical treatment, boiling or filtration before drinking.
• Bring sunscreen no matter the season. Wear sunglasses and a hat or visor to protect your eyes.
• Protect yourself from ticks, mosquitoes and diseases they carry. Wear insect repellant with DEET (on skin or clothing) or permethrin (on clothing) and wear light colored clothing so you can spot ticks more easily.
• Beware of poisonous plants by knowing what dangerous plants are common to the area and how to identify them.
• Practice good hygiene. Make sure to wash your hands, particularly after using the toilet and before handling food.
• When hunting, don’t forget to wear hearing protection.
Family Friendly Films
You want to watch a movie as a family but want something you will enjoy as well as your children. Those movies can be hard to find at times and it may be difficult to sit through a two hour cartoon that fails to grasp your interest. The following five films sure to capture your attention just as much as your children. You’ll all be looking forward to family fun night and these films will make excellent additions to your DVD collections.
Finding Nemo (2003) Directed by Andrew Stanton
This is a film about a young clown-fish named Nemo who is kidnapped from his first day of school and taken to Australia as a pet of a dentist. Nemo’s father is a paranoid fish constantly in fear for the safety of himself and Nemo and must travel the ocean in search for his one little clown fish.
Why it’s a great choice:
This is a film you will enjoy just as much if you’re 5 years old or 50 years old. Right from the beginning you get pulled into the story and are worried for the safety of this little clown fish. This film teaches several valuable lessons including lessons on friendship and safety. Your child will want to watch this film over and over, and you wont mind.
The Incredibles (2003) Directed by Brad Bird
A retired pair of superheroes settle down and go into retirement and have two children who were born with super powers and a third infant whose powers have not yet revealed themselves. In this film the family must come out of hiding to save the world.
Why it’s a great choice:
This film is absolutely charming. It’s underlying message is that a family can accomplish anything if they work as a team and have compassion for one another. This film will have you laughing at one turn but will also have you thinking through its complex world dominating plot.
Monsters Inc. (2001) Directed by Pete Doctor
Monsters live together in a town that gets its power by the screams of children. Monsters don’t scare to harm children but rather to power their homes. Human children are not allowed in the town but there’s a breach and Mike and Sully (two hilarious unlucky monsters) must deal with the situation.
Why it’s a great choice:
This movie is both funny and entertaining so you will not be bored. This film could help if your child is afraid of the dark or of monsters under the bed or in the closet. The premise of this film is that monsters are not going to hurt you, that they have their own complicated lives and monster children, but have interestingly enough determined how to harness the fear of young children to power their city ; Talk about eco-friendly.
Shrek (2001) Directed by Andrew Adamson and Vicky Jenson
This is the first in a now trilogy of Shrek films. Shrek is an ogre who keeps to himself and lives in a swamp, but is more misunderstood than scary. No one ever took the time to get to know him and his layers except a loud mouth Donkey who he can’t seem to go away. They work together to save a princess for the Prince of the town Far-Far-Away. Their journey is quite an ordeal but it is an excellent movie.
Why it’s a great choice:
This is by far my favorite family film; I have watched this movie just me and my boyfriend because I love it. It brings out the child in me and it’s …
Family and Careers Do Not Mix
“After all I’ve done for you the least you could do is put your family first instead of that miserable medical career first!”
How many times has every one of us heard a line to that effect? If you think about it, family and career, possibly even college, do not mix. Dropping your own life, or “putting it on hold” in lay terms, seems to be the prevalent mentality of a lot of people, especially the lower classes. Using phrases such as “different values” and “hang with your own kind” instead of attempting to cross the tracks which will get you shot down by those on your own side is what keeps you from establishing any individual achievements in life.
But it is not confined to careers alone in many cases. Some families even prevent their members from having any outside friends such as pen-pals who can surely influence one to betray family and strike out on one’s own, searching for fame and fortune. In drastic cases, some families may even prohibit their children from attending college or reading books, since books can fill all sorts of ideas in those tiny heads which may cause them to stray from the family. Talk about forced dependency! No wonder so many children wind up running away from home. They are being so suffocated they realize what is going on and cannot take it anymore. It is easy to be sympathetic to these young ones who escape, even if their families do the right thing and send the police out to look for them, only to find out their child has entered the army to receive an education and serve their country. Not surprisingly, the offspring usually grows up to be an upright citizen while the concerned parents are parked in front of the television set all day long, drinking beer and watching Jerry Springer. Yes, that is what being held down is all about. But at least quality family time is spent with Jerry Springer. Who else would you want to spend quality family time with? Certainly not Dan Rather.
Wasting your time trying to work on anything that might make a name for yourself is, then, futile when it comes to families like this. Any time you attempt to do so, they will find ways to take it from you, intervene, destroy whatever it is you have been working on, and cause you to take to your bed and start crying. You might even hear the thoughtful words from the next room: “That child is destroying our lives.” “That child has no business spending time with her friends when that time should be spent with us.” “Why oh why does that child of ours cause so much trouble?” “That child is destroying our family.” Of course there are many more possible comments that can be included here, but these get the point across. Keeping a child dependent and disarming its survival instincts is important in family values in order to keep that child obedient at all times. It does not matter if the child starts doing something harmful to himself or herself, which includes the taking of over the counter medications. Parents as such think they are doing their children a favor but in the long run, do extensive damage that can never be undone, no matter how many shrinks the adult child sees.
So if you look forward to valuing family above all else including college, careers, even jobs (because holding a job interferes with Jerry Springer time), make sure your kids have a bedroom that is void of books, …
Outdoor Safety: Snakebite, First Aid Do’s and Don’ts
As a Biology teacher and amateur herpetologist, I have encountered numerous snakes, both in the wild and in captivity, and I always marvel at their beauty and elegant design. The vast majority of the world’s serpents are non-venomous and completely harmless to humans. However, if you live on any continent other than Antarctica, there is a possibility that you may encounter one of the more dangerous species during your outdoor activities. If you follow a few simple rules, you should come away from the encounter with nothing more than a sense of exhilaration at having seen one of nature’s wonders.
If you are bitten, however, your awe-inspiring encounter has now turned into a medical emergency. Snake venom can cause extreme pain, serious tissue damage, and even death, if left untreated. Students and friends frequently ask me what they should do in such a situation. Again, following a few basic guidelines can help ensure that you survive the ordeal, hopefully a little wiser for the experience.
Since an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, let’s talk about how you can avoid being bitten in the first place.
1. Treat ALL snakes as potentially venomous. This means keep your distance! As a general rule, you should keep at least one body length (the snake’s, not yours) away. This keeps you well out of the “strike zone.” For most of the common venomous species, ten to twelve feet should do it. This rule also means that you should never handle a snake, no matter how pretty it looks or how docile it seems. Content yourself with taking pictures.
2. When hiking, step ON, not over obstacles. As you hike, you may encounter large rocks, fallen trees, etc. in your path, and sometimes it is tempting to jump over them. Resist this temptation! A snake could well be sheltering itself on the far side of the obstacle. Stepping on the rock or log gives both you and the snake some warning of approaching danger. Remember, nine times out of ten, the snake will move away to avoid a confrontation if it knows you are coming.
3. Do not run. The faster you are moving, the less time the snake has to react to the vibrations you are generating and move out of your way, so running through the woods is not a good idea. Some people react to seeing a venomous snake (or hearing a rattle) by running in the opposite direction. This is also dangerous. The sound of a rattlesnake is difficult to localize if you can’t see the snake, and you may end up running right toward it. If you see it and run away, you could well find yourself running into the path of another snake! Walk away in a calm manner.
4. Familiarize yourself with the venomous snakes in your area. Forewarned is forearmed. Be aware of any dangerous wildlife in the location where you will be hiking or camping. Know their usual habitats and use caution when exploring such habitats.
Okay, so you’ve followed all the safety advice, and you got bitten anyway. What should you do? The decisions you make now can literally save life and limb. In any snakebite emergency, you should take the following steps:
1. First, remain calm. I know. This is easier said than done, but it is important nonetheless. The more anxious you become, the faster your heart beats, and the faster the venom spreads throughout your body.
2. Call 911. If you have access to a phone, the first thing you should do …
Summer Safety for Children Living in the Desert
As Summer quickly approaches, Summer safety for children is often brought into every day discussions. Common Summer safety topics include covering pools to reduce drowning risks and tips for avoiding heat exhaustion. But there are other dangers present to young children during the Summer months, especially when living desert areas. A few extra precautions need to be taken during the Summer months when living in these hot and dry environments.
Snake and Scorpions
As the weather heats up in the desert, snakes and scorpions come out from hiding and pose a danger to young children enjoying the Summer weather. Snakes and scorpions are common inhabitants of desert environments. They are especially dangerous for young children because they often hide in unsuspecting places and children are often easy targets.
A Summer safety tip for children who live in the desert includes protecting them from theses desert inhabitants. You must educate your children about the dangers snakes and scorpions posses. Make sure your children know to never play with them. If they see a snake or scorpion make go get an adult.
Before allowing your children to play outside, walk the perimeter of your yard and look for snakes and scorpions. If your yard contains children’s toys, move all the toys, look underneath them, in them, and on them to make sure there are no dangers lurking. Also check bushes, porches, and patios for signs of snakes and scorpions.
Flash flooding is also a common occurrence during the Summer months in the desert. Summer safety for children needs to include educating your child about flash flooding, especially in monsoon areas. Flash floods can occur quickly and without notice. It is very easy for children to be swept away in the fast moving flood waters.
When you live in the desert, it’s important to educate your children about flash floods. Make sure your kids know not to play outside during storms, even if it is raining lightly. Flash floods can occur very suddenly. Make sure your child knows if they see the waters of a flash flood to get to higher ground immediately. They need to know to never play in the water no matter how shallow or calm it may appear.
These are common tips for Summer safety for children that often go un-discussed. These dangers are present no matter where you live in the desert. Make sure your children know the consequence of these dangers and how to react appropriately when in the situation.
Why Eating Family Style Meals is Important for Children
Young children are at the age where they are learning how to assert their independence. They want to make decisions for themselves, and rely less on adults. Serving family style meals is a great way to let children do things for themselves. A lot of families today are eating dinner in separate rooms, or at different times. Read why it’s important to eat together with your children at meal times.
At my daycare, we are required to eat at the table with the kids in our care. At lunch time, we sit down and let the kids serve themselves. We pass around bowls of food and let the kids take what they want. They can even pour their drink from a small pitcher. The older the kids are, the more freedom they have as far as serving themselves. Toddlers, on the other hand, need more assistance than the older children. Letting kids serve themselves teaches them that they can do things for themselves. When you are constantly serving foods to your children, they are not learning anything, except how to be lazy and let other people do things for them.
Let your children take part in meal preparation. For example, let your child toss the salad or put dinner rolls into a basket. What you allow them to do really depends on their age. I wouldn’t recommend giving knives to any child, and I wouldn’t recommend letting kids handle hot foods or raw meat either. Give them simple tasks to perform. When it comes time to eat, let them help set the table. After dinner is finished, let them help clean up
Family style meals also help children develop several different skills. Motor skills can be developed from picking up serving bowls and utensils, and serving food. Social skills, language skills and manners are developed through conversation at the dinner table. Make sure you set a good example for your kids by saying “please” and “thank you”. Whatever your kids hear you say, they will most likely repeat. Model good eating behavior. Wash your hands before you eat, chew with your mouth closed, use a napkin to wipe your mouth, and never talk with your mouth full of food! Also, you can also help kids develop language skills by talking about the food on the table. Even toddlers can learn simple food words like apple, meat, noodles, beans, milk and more.
One thing I love about eating family style meals with my toddlers at daycare is the fact that I can get my picky eaters to actually try foods! With a normal class of 5 kids, if one child is picky and doesn’t want to eat their green beans, I normally will say “Look, Ava is eating her green beans”. Once the picky eater sees their friend eating the green beans, the child may want to try them as well. This doesn’t always work, but it’s a good idea to try that has worked for me.
If you aren’t already eating family style meals, you could introduce this concept to your children by setting up a table with play food and plates. Let them use their imagination and see what comes of it. Start small. It takes time to develop family style service, but be persistent. Begin with family style snacks and work your way up to a full dinner. With time, your children will learn manners and how to be independent. This foundation in the early years will lead to a lifetime of good habits.
Tips on Ensuring the Safety of Children as They Cross the Streets
There are some basic concepts about road safety that are introduced to a child at an early age, but basically they are not only meant for children. Most people quite often miss these basic but very important road safety rules.
For their own safety in crossing the streets, children are often asked to ensure that they know the safety rule that in most cases may just appear as mare songs unless enforced. For example, the basic “stop, look, and listen” rule can only be effective if parents and older children are able to teach their children how to apply them in real life.
Children have been taught and will have an idea of the dangers on the roads through their day today lessons. But they actually do not understand just how bad or dangerous these roads can turn out to be unless they actually see the accidents occur. Putting the safety songs into practice ought to be the best way of tackling these issues. They can be supervised by parents or their teachers to start crossing the neighborhood streets before trying on the main roads. If the songs are put into action they will always remember their importance and always try to practice those measures.
It is also very important to teach them the meaning and usage of traffic lights. They need to understand how to respond to the lights as pedestrians and what they need to adhere to as they advance to learn how the whole concept of the lights controls of the traffic. Children should know and take it to be a good important practice to request adults to assist them to cross or better still cross the roads with them. Most people would be good enough to assist.
Ensuring children safety when they cross the streets may be tricky because of the law breaking motorists on the roads. A child may have been taught all the basic rule of traffic including the traffic and road signs, vehicles warning signs such as horns, lights, and sirens but unpredictable accidents may occur due to some irresponsible driver. It may not be easy for a child to foresee such reckless drivers or to predict ugly scenarios and avoid them even when they know how to apply those basic road safety measures. For example, a child might now the right time and place to cross the road but my not be in a position to tell or estimate the approaching speed of an oncoming vehicle. For these reason it is usually advisable for children below the age of eleven to cross the road with adults even when they know how to do it on their own. They should also be discouraged from crossing or playing near the road when it is dark.
It is not advisable for children traveling by bus to immediately cross the road upon alighting. There is need for one to take time to analyze the state of the road before crossing. There are children whom may be riding bicycles or skates by the road. They are prone to accidents than those walking because their concentration is more on the bikes and skates than on the road or the vehicles passing by. They need to ensure they stay along the bike routes to avoid accidents. Protective wears such, as helmets are also vital for them.
Generally, it is common for people to cross the streets even when they are not sure if it is safe to do so. One rule that must be practiced by all pedestrians should be that they must not cross the streets when they …